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My Secret to Happiness: Unhappiness

My Secret to Happiness: Unhappiness

I recently went to see a woman speak on the Science of Happiness. She was an engaging, informative, entertaining speaker and I really enjoyed myself. I even patted myself on the back because I do so many of the things she recommended to be happy:   Eat right Get plenty of rest Choose work you love Create meaningful, supportive relationships Spend your money on experiences not things Put away your cell phone when you are with others And meditate.   Guess what? I woke up the next morning feeling very depressed.   And for a moment I was mad at that speaker, because I had done all the right things and I didn’t have the prize. You see, my long term intimate relationship ended not so long ago, so I am in a period of loss and grief. Which is appropriate, and healthy even. But it highlighted for me the frantic search in this culture to be happy.   We spend so much energy in search of the right relationship, the right job, the right body, the right friends, the right therapist, the right answer, the right moral code, all so that we will  finally win the prize of being happy. Like Happy is that Garden of Eden we are enroute to, and once we reach our destination, we will reside there forever.   Then one day we meander through the valley of the shadow of death and we think we have lost our way. Failed. Lost the prize. Or maybe we have been in that valley much of our lives, and we wonder what is inherently wrong with...
To Run Where The Brave Dare Not Go….

To Run Where The Brave Dare Not Go….

Deep personal and spiritual growth work requires that we be willing to venture beyond our comfort zone.   When we wallow in our anger, fear, pride, denial or self-pity, it can be familiar and even oddly comforting. We may think we are safer this way, deeply defended in our mighty castle, fortified by walls that keep everyone at a distance. But this separation and isolation doesn’t acknowledge our hidden pain that waits to be healed, our underlying need that longs to be fulfilled, and the call of our soul that is beckoning us to follow.    We may reject our negativity, our fragility, our imperfection, but when we do so we reject our humanity. If we spend all of our time grasping for perfection or for bliss while avoiding the acknowledgment of our pain and negativity, Spirit will remain the ever elusive “other” that we can occasionally grasp but never quite hold on to. Life will remain that utopian ideal we can never fully reach.   We may try harder to keep that pain and negativity at bay, but it will inevitably creep in, affecting our relationships and our sense of peace and integrity. If we reject part of ourselves in our quest for wholeness and unity, we become caught in the vicious circle of the duality we are trying to free ourselves from. In other words, it doesn’t work.   Seriously. Take that in. It doesn’t work.   Fortunately, every so often in any lifetime we come to a crossroads, and we are presented with a choice. We can stay with what we know, stay in the comfortable,...
Welcoming New Life

Welcoming New Life

Hello my friends, While it is just the beginning of March, Spring feels like it’s right around the corner and I couldn’t be more ready to welcome in new Life! The Mid-Atlantic Pathwork Helper Community recently gathered for our quarterly retreat at Sevenoaks Retreat Center, where Louise Del Maestro shared her “Rest” work based on the Living Inquiry work of Scott Kiloby, and we spent the afternoon exploring how our commitment to the Pathwork is manifesting in our lives. Thank you, Louise, for introducing us to this beautiful teaching!   Old and new friends alike gathered this past weekend for an engaging variety of workshops at the Pathwork Community Weekend — a  celebration of our shared longing to deepen personally and spiritually. We will be offering another Pathwork Community Weekend at Sevenoaks July 29-30th, so stay tuned to hear the details on another exciting opportunity to come together to share the beauty of the land at Sevenoaks and the transformative power of Pathwork.   Tuesday night I launched the first meeting of my new Pathwork Group, “Bridging the Divide,” and it was an beautifully intimate beginning as these students each took steps to deepen in their individual soul’s journey.  We’ll be meeting every other week through the beginning of June, and I’m really excited to witness how Spirit will be moving in their lives.   Growth, transformation, and change is all around us at this time of year. The big question is, how will we meet it, how will we support Spirit’s longing to manifest in our lives and on our planet?    How about you, are you ready...